For so long, I was afraid to embody softness.
I didn’t even realize it - it lived quietly in my subconscious.
I wanted to be strong. Independent. Equal to any man.
I followed society’s rhythm of constant doing, planning, controlling, analyzing - always moving, rarely arriving.

I thought strength meant being unshakeable.
Holding everything together.
Never needing anything.

But slowly, I’m discovering another way of being.
A softer way. A truer way.

I’m learning what it means to receive - help, support, care.
To release the grip of control.
To rest without guilt.
To feel without filtering.
To trust in the magic that lives in the unseen.

There was a time in my career when I believed I needed to push harder.
To control more.
I tightened the grip, trying to force outcomes through strategy and expectation.
It didn’t work.

Eventually, I let go - not out of wisdom, but because I was exhausted.
And once I surrendered, things began to fall into place.
Not perfectly, but I suddenly landed on the exact projects I wanted to be part of.

People can feel when you’re trying too hard.
It repels them.
Control repels; openness attracts.

Recently, the theme of letting go and receiving has surfaced again.
I often find it hard to receive without feeling the need to immediately repay.
As if accepting support creates a debt.

To soften this pattern, I’m deliberately accepting favors, help, support, gifts,
with heartfelt gratitude.
Practicing what it means to just receive, without my mind rushing into, How can I make it up to them?

It isn’t easy.
But I’m trusting that the opportunity to give back will come - either to them, or to someone else.
These tiny moments feel like doorways.
Like my body whispering, It’s safe now.

Because softness requires safety.
It asks us to let the guard down.
To let life touch us - fully, deeply, without armor.

The feminine - this instinctive, magnetic, receptive energy - has always been inside me, quietly waiting for a place to breathe.

In the past, life felt draining, exhausting.
Like it was happening around me rather than through me.

Now, the joy is returning. The wonder.
I can trust again - more and more each day.
And with that trust comes the courage to surrender.
To loosen the reins.
To breathe.
To be.

I feel freer than I have ever been.

This path is leading me back to pleasure. To excitement. To desire.
To decisions made from love, intuition, calling - not fear, lack, or control.

I used to believe I had to force life to happen.
That life was hard and I needed to push.
Now I’m learning that life can unfold when I let it.

The yogis say we are here to play, to have fun, to enjoy the ride.

What a radically different way to live.
And what a beautiful one.

Softness isn’t fragile.
It’s the deepest kind of strength,
the kind that no longer needs armor.

✨ A little reflection for you:
Where do you notice yourself gripping tightly?
And where might softness lead to more ease?

May we all remember the power of open hearts, receptive hands, and unguarded joy.

Free online embodiment session

My gift to you is a free embodiment session to reconnect and cultivate trust through breath and sound.

In this session, I invite you to gently return to yourself.

With soft movement, conscious breathing, and healing sound, we open a space to release stress, let energy flow again, and cultivate a deeper sense of self-trust.

A moment to listen to your body.
A moment to truly feel yourself.
A moment to simply be. ✨

Date: December 16th
Time: 6 pm CET (approx. 50 min)
Where: Online

Sign up here

Studies and stats 🔢 

Research shows that mindfulness, yoga, and meditation - all practices of inner softness and rest - can significantly improve emotional well-being, reduce stress, and build resilience.

Source: Mental health benefits of yoga and meditation

Wellbeing Hack 😁 

Rest

Especially during this darker season, rest becomes even more essential to our wellbeing. When I started consciously building more rest into my winter days, something shifted. Winter stopped exhausting me - and I began to appreciate its invitation to slow down, go inward, reflect, and restore.

Rest isn’t just sleep (although that counts 😉).
It can take many shapes. Some of my favorites:

🧘‍♀️ Yoga
🧘‍♀️ Meditation
🔔 Sound (sound baths, frequencies)
📖 Reading
🚶‍♀️ Walking
💤 And yes… good old sleep 😆

Winter doesn’t have to drain us.
It can refill us - if we let it.

Content recommendations 📚️ 

My favorite pieces of content to learn and grow!

• The Power of Receiving: A Revolutionary Approach to Giving Yourself the Life You Want and Deserve | Amanda Owen - Book

  I haven’t read it yet, it literally just landed on my doorstep a few days ago - but it immediately jumped onto my must-read list for the Christmas break. (I gifted myself a full four weeks off this year to have time for both family and myself. Can’t wait.✨)

  If, like me, you’ve spent years trying to be strong and independent by doing everything on your own - and maybe closed yourself off to support, help, or ease - this might be a beautiful place to start softening.

  💗 If the title speaks to you, you might want to check it out too.